Tuesday, January 7, 2014
Happy New Year!
Did you make any New Year's Resolutions this year? How ya doing? Oh, Me?
Nope, I'm not a resolutions kind of girl. For one very specific reason: I don't think resolutions are something that need to only happen on December 31/January 1. I think resolutions (or goals) are something you can make, meet, re-do any time of the year, and I think looking at them in a kind of always moving, always changing frame of mind is quite healthy.
And I think many of us (former resolution maker, raising my hand) initially set ourselves up for failure when we make a big deal of setting goals only once per year. I can't tell you the number of times I resolved to 1) lose weight or 2) get a promotion or 3) sign a new book contract. And within three weeks I was only down a pound (and incredibly discouraged) and another was chosen for the job I wanted (and I was discouraged) and word was very slow coming about a new contract (and I just kind of gave up).
Those are not productive, moving forward kinds of actions. You know why I had them? Because I was making something a goal that I had no control of. Okay, on the weight loss, I was in control (and still am). But, really, when you're shooting for a new job or a new contract, you're not in control of the final decision. Sure, you put your best foot forward, but in the end another person (or persons) make the final decision.
When I finally realized that I wasn't in control of the resolutions I was making, I had a mindset change, and a pretty big one: I make goals and I make them year-round. I have daily goals for the writing, weekly, monthly, quarterly. I have business goals, sales goals. I have personal goals. When I meet a goal (like finishing a book or signing a new contract), I adjust. I make new goals based on where I want to go next and if I don't hit a goal post, I adjust and try again. The best part of my new system? I'm constantly making goals, meeting goals, trying again ... and if the worst happens, I don't wait until the next December 31/January 1 to revise my plan.
How about you? A New Year's Resolution Maker? How are you doing with your goals?
Hi! I'm Kristina, contemporary romance author, mom to bebe, wife to RadioMan, lover of all things Thin Mint. Probably have too many shoes, but every girl needs a vice. Love always matters. Repped by MacKenzie Fraser-Bub, Trident Media Group.
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